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Perfect Nightmare
Has anyone who has been divorced felt like they failed in the perfect match?
I am now legally separated and I almost cried when the judge said that she was very sorry that the marriage didn't last for the sake of our child. When I entered this marriage I thought that this person was a dream come true. Eight years later I am torn by the idea that this person was the girl of my dreams and yet the marraige failed. My first feeling is that I failed my child. The second feeling is that how can I ever trust my own judgment again when what I thought would be the perfect mate turned out to be a living nightmare. Not all the time, mind you, but so much that when I relate to others what went on they can't believe it. There were days I was in heaven and other days I was in a living hell. I've been through so many therapist in this marriage trying to save it that I've run out of fingers on both hands counting. How is this possible?
I am sorry to hear that dude. I am glad you express your feelings and emotions out open which is very healthy and respectful. You know, a good decision doesn't guarantee a good future. it's almost like buying stocks. past performance doesn't guarantee future result. you made the best choice at the time you could and the marriage lasted 8 years. it's not bad. your decision was right and it's the circumstances that changed along the way that didn't help your marriage to last. So stop doubting yourself. You're doing great and you seeked therapies and have done everything you can to help your marriage. it's all what you can do. so just learn to accept it failed, let it go and move on. don't beat yourself up. a lot of the times, there are just so many things that we can't control. we just learn to cope with it and hope for the best. remember, happiness comes from the bottom of your heart. don't let anything subsitute it or anyone take it away from you! wish you the best!